Cupid’s Code: The Psychology of Relationships, Seduction, Marriage & Love Reviews
Cupid's Code: The Psychology of Relationships, Seduction, Marriage & Love
From the man that dated all of the personality types:Cupid's Code takes us on a journey of understanding the emotion that has influenced songs, wars, minds, and culture: Love. We are taken through the worlds of biology, psychology, and anthropology so that we are introduced to new ideas about how we can answer many questions that plague us about our partners and ourselves.Throughout the journey we are introduced to stories, scientific findings, and tackle common ideas that are held i
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The COVER got me! The MATERIAL MOVED ME!!!,
Informative and fulfilling with a cute cover! Now and again you just come across something that is so special, you just have to share it with all you care about. Overall this book has something for all: Science, strategies, cool kid’s art work, and a schooling on people and yourself. ALL FROM THE GUY WHO DATED ALL OF THE PERSONALITY TYPES!!
Cupid’s Code starts us off with the introduction by Managing Boss of the personality system, and moves into the “Date,” where we learn about ourselves and others as well as explore the science of attraction. Then we go into “The Proposal,” where we learn about how the Date can be applied to the different unfilled thoughts like Mars and Venus and the 5 Like Languages. The Proposal then ties up with a clean section in how we can seduce the additional “types” and what life would look like with them. The third section, “The Commitment,” shows us information from what makes successful marriages work, to how terrible our decisions have been, and then ties in the science of marriage satisfaction.
The first section of the book talks about how the instigator came to find out the information and write the book. He then talks to us about how to use the information. In the Date, we are introduced to attachment and like. Each of us attaches differently, and each of us seeks a different kind of like. Next, we meet a few different “acquaintances” that join us conversationally in the book. These acquaintances open the door to different types of people. The date then clarifies how each of us is different and that we all seek different experiences in life. This section clarifies how we are wired. This section was huge and in depth. The gem here was the communication tactics, as the “Code” is shared with us and how we can look at our spouse and know where they are coming from. “Seek first to know, and then to be understood.” The next part of the date goes through all of the findings that science has shown us about attraction. The next section is the Proposal. This part explores all of the additional theorists, like Gray and his Mars and Venus and Chapman’s 5 Like Languages. Cupid’s Code now transforms into a theory and it measures itself against all of the additional theories that are well loved and ties them together. Then we go through internet dating, and some clean tricks in order to catch the eye of your “type.” In the Commitment, we are offered up information about how we are not doing well in picking our potential spouses. This section then clarifies the science of how we can improve our odds of satisfaction in selecting our ideal spouse. The commitment reinforces how vital it is to have a satisfying marriage and pleased life.
The last section goes through how we can apply the information in the book to our lives, and tells us what happened to our “acquaintances” that we meet throughout the book. We are also able to take the personality test that helps us spot how we are wired, and what like and attachment we seek. Knowing those ingredients help us to know the content of this book in more depth.
Cupid’s Code = Awesomeness:)
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|Went to buy a PUA (Pick Up Artist) book and finished up with THE CODE!!!,
So there are really two types of books on this topic: (1) is the fluffy communication stuff and (2) is the pick-up and seduction stuff. Cupid’s Code is a blend of both….It is chalked full of tools for the art of seduction and has a boat load of info on communication. The superfantastic business about the Code is that it is not written under the context of manipulation, nor is it the fluffy idealistic romance filled ideology. Because of that fact, I don’t reckon this will offend too many people because it is more like a bridge between the two subjects. (The instigator openly states that he is fed up with the divorce rate and challenges people to make better decisions in picking their spouse)
Cupid’s Code is a book of theory, a book of practice, and a book of philosophy. It covers many topics, so some sections will only skim the surface and bring out the hard core analytical findings about a certain subject. The instigator coasts through some of the material and from the reviews already on here it seems as though some of the people here didn’t get it. That is the largest knock on the book.
I personally deliberate this a book on people, how they go, how they feel, how they reckon, how they attach, how they like. The book covers all of the well loved topics, and the instigator has done his research to provide you a cursory view. Topics like finding out if someone is attracted to you (He’s Just Not That Into You), how to seduce (Greene’s Seduction and the Game), the different languages or like styles (5 Like Languages and Mars Venus), the differences in men/women, and personalities in the world (my personal favorite). So there is sufficient information to provide value to any reader.
The book really tackles taking a look at you (which is not simple now and again). Getting to what you want and how people can perceive or see you. Basically, what you have to offer another person. You get the answers to that through this book and what the instigator is saying is that you MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST before you can like someone ELSE MORE. Once you grasp onto what you are like, only then can you start to see people differently. You can see them for what they are with their positives and flaws and then make an educated choice. Cupid’s Code even goes as far as giving you what a life with a particular personality is going to look like. TELL ME that is not valuable.
I didn’t take the Sorter, the instigator’s personality system until after I got to the personality section. I should have followed the advice of the introduction because it does frame the book a modest different for me. I was able to read about myself and then take a look at my past girlfriends and acquaintances. It was at that point that I saw a sample in what I was attracted to. There is something eerily right about this book, it kind of spooks me that someone can peg people like this. …..BUT the fact that Cupid’s Code has all of that information to reference makes me smile.
MY PITCH: This book is awesome! I was looking for a excellent PUA book or something on NLP and read a few reviews on this one….it sparked my curiosity so I checked it out. I am glad I did. This is not a book that you will read once. This is a book that you will keep, a book that will keep you thinking, this book you will reference back and grow with. The book is like one gigantic game, one that empowers people and promotes self-growth. WHO WOULDN’T WANT THAT?
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|Thorough and Thought Provoking,
This book was a tough read. Full of information that made you sit back and reckon about what was written. Meeting back and thinking is something that I delight in, so I really loved this book.
To sum the book up, we are introduced to the Managing Boss of the personality system who writes about the usefulness of the S3 Sorter and the applications it has to society. Then the instigator gives us the how, why, who, what, and when of the book. Once the book starts we are introduced to the different ways that people attach and then to the different styles of how people like. Once that is covered we are swept away into the world of personality in which we see how people view the world and their relationships. NOW comes the crash course in how to better communicate with each additional, which I found a bit hard–but after I read it a few times the subject became clear to me.
The book’s second section takes us through the different writings on the subjects and shows us why personalities are the answer, because they are specific and relation to people. Not that they are “a one-size-fits-all” theory like the additional well loved books. The final section is based around marriage satisfaction and what science has shown works in a general significance and when it comes to personality types.
The personality assessment was hard to score because it was complex, but the instigator did place up a free scoring test on the S3 Sorter website, so I made it through. I also tested my boyfriend, which has helped our relationship quite a bit. We both have an thought of why the we do the things we do.
Overall the book is worth the time to read and delivers valuable insight. People will find some sections challenging, but it was worth the overall read. Well Done!!!!
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